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Mrs. Kreil (73): Yes, true love does exist. For me it happens really quick.Have you found it?
I found it, and I lost it. I've been divorced twice.Related: What do old people think about rap?And how do you know when it's true love?
You only really recognize it when you're older. I would say that when you're young you mostly imagine true love.Mrs. Müller (75): I once found true love, but it ended 35 years ago, unfortunately. But I think that a younger person can recognize true love.What have you learned about love over the course of your life?
Kreil: You feel much calmer about it with age.Mrs. Huber (73): Yes, I think so too. Serenity comes with age.Kreil: When you're young, you fall in love and you immediately think it's true love. When you're young, you fall madly in love very quickly.Huber: And then later, you realize they weren't the right person. Over the years, you start to see everything from another angle. When you're young, you're just brash and like bashing your head into the wall.How do you express love?
Kreil: I'm actually not that loving anymore. I think the ultimate demonstration of love is just being there for someone. I had years in which I was really needed, and I think that was enough of a sacrifice. That's love.Huber: Love just gets a different significance as the years go by. In the last years of your life, you see things very differently.
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Kreil: I can't really speak about that. I got divorced twice, and I was really close friends with both men.But have you had butterflies in your stomach since then?
Well, that's the stupidest expression that I've ever heard, but everybody says it. You have a tingling or you're shaking, but why would you have butterflies in your stomach?OK then, I'll say it your way: Can you still feel this tingling at your age?
I don't think it will ever happen again for me, but it would be nice if it did.
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My husband got very sick at some point and around the same time, he cheated on me. He said he wanted to know what sex would be like if the woman didn't know about his sickness. There wasn't much happening with us at that point, but still—I told him that I'm not a brothel, where you come and go as you please, and formally kicked him out.Kreil: You have to find yourself in that situation to have an opinion. A friend of mine also kicked her husband out after he cheated on her.Huber: Yes, everything was damaged then—my ego, my pride, and, more importantly, the trust was broken. If I don't trust someone, I can't live with them. At least that's the case for me. He also made me an immoral offer, saying I could also look for sex elsewhere if I wanted to. I slapped him in the face and told him to disappear immediately.Kreil: I also have to say that I was lucky enough to be able to get rid of both my husbands easily. My first husband married again and had children. I think patchwork families are good.Huber: But you can't generalize. You can't say that all men are players, just like you can't say all women are sluts. It always takes two to tango.How important is sex in love?
Very important.Kreil: I think so too.Huber: It's a very important part of any relationship but particularly of a marriage—it's basically the meat and bones of the marriage. As a woman, I couldn't imagine a marriage without sex.